4 Things a Man Can Do to Raise His Bedroom Game (That Will Have Her Coming Back for More!)

By | Dating, Relationships, Self-help, Single, Uncategorized

As men, each one of us owns the responsibility of creating an environment and connection that will entice the object of our affection to crave us.  To some degree, this is luck.  Sometimes people’s personalities and energies just dovetail perfectly.  Sometimes, in rare situations, the normal strategies don’t work or are not even tried, and an enchanting tangling of souls and bodies occurs regardless.  But if you want to ensure you have a connection and repeat dates and sexual encounters, there are…

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Myths About Matchmaking — Debunked

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If trying to meet men or women feels like a second job, hiring a matchmaker is a sound choice because a matchmaker undertakes the task for you. This frees up your time, you avoid awkward situations, and you remain comfortably ensconced in your real work and daily routines. But for various reasons, misunderstandings abound about what matchmakers do and how we do it. There’s no reason to treat someone whose life mission is to help people experience more love like a…

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Taking the Sting Out of Rejection and Putting Yourself at the Center of Love

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By Suzanna Mathews, The Date Maven [Also published at 360Wichita.com] Everyone wants love. No one wants rejection. This is fact. It is basic to human nature. Ben Franklin said, “If you would be loved, love and be lovable.” That sounds cute. Seems sensible. But have you ever put yourself out there, served up a big ‘ol whopping, “Here I am, I’m awesome, come and play with me!” and were met with, “No thanks. I’ll pass.” I have. Ouchie mama! What…

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Do You Suffer from Any of These Misnomers and Misunderstandings About Dating?

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Misnomers and Misunderstandings. I come across a lot of them as I talk to people who are navigating the world of dating and social connection. Here are a few stand-outs — and I’ll add more as I come across them and debunk the MM’s as we go: Misnomer/misunderstanding: I like my privacy. Since I didn’t tell my dating app to be aware of my location, it shouldn’t know where I am. Truth: Many dating apps follow your location. This is…

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I’m Delightfully Full, Thank You!

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Martha Beck says that a love feast is anything that feeds the true you – whether it’s emotional, intellectual, physical, or spiritual. If you reach out to someone, you’re laying a love feast. If you give affection to someone, that’s a love feast. Give gratitude or pay a compliment…Bam! Love feast. If you wish someone well, cheer them up, give them a high five, atta-boy or atta-girl, pat on the back, etc., you’ve made a love feast! Ben Franklin said,…

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Do You Ever Feel Invisible?

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Maybe you feel invisible amidst all the online dating profiles. Maybe you feel invisible when you walk into a crowded cocktail party, fundraiser, or networking event. Your only friend there is your cell phone or the cheese platter, maybe? Maybe you feel invisible on the weekends when you hole up at home, getting your errands and chores done, and before you know it, the weekend is over and you haven’t gone anywhere or done anything fun – or met anybody…

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How to Be a Rockstar at Relationships & Romance

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Intimate relationships are never easy and career success can never be taken for granted, but for women looking for that elusive “work-life balance,” the equation becomes even more challenging. Ambitious, self-assured women looking for more joy, more passion, more connection, and more abundance in life are usually going at it alone – even when they’re in a relationship with a significant other. Suzanna Mathews, also known as The Date Maven, and Julie Dubuc, Master Coach with JBN Global, use their…

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My Book of Imperfections: Would you like a copy?

By | Dating, Emotions, Love, Millennials, Relationships, romanticism, Self-help, Single

Each of us has an unwritten but deeply inscribed “book” inside that catalogs our insanities and imperfections… but when do you show your lover those chapters?  I’ve been enamored, of late, with The Course of Love, a book by Allain de Botton, and his other work exploring and exposing Romanticism. (He has books, videos, newsletters, and more, if the bug of debunking romanticism bites you too!) He says in one of his lectures that “We don’t need people to be…

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Seven Deadly Dating Sins

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Are you Committing One of the 7 Deadly Dating Sins? Even my married friends are making at least one of these relationship mistakes! In the play Dr. Faustus by Christopher Marlowe – a drama I studied enthusiastically in grad school that has remained memorable all these years later — Doctor Faustus, a German scholar, grew discontent with the limits of traditional forms of knowledge and learning. He yearned to go beyond law, logic, medicine, and religion. So he decided to…

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5 Tips for Overcoming Dating Anxiety

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A first date is always nerve-racking, especially if we’ve been out of the game for a while. The truth is, everyone is nervous on a first date, including the person you’re going on the date with. Sometimes even the 2nd, 3rd, or 403rd date can cause a little anxiety. I’ve compiled 5 tips that I’ve recommended to clients in the past and also applied in my life. Read on and conquer that dating anxiety. 1. You’ve heard that saying “Check…

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