My Book of Imperfections: Would you like a copy?

By | Dating, Emotions, Love, Millennials, Relationships, romanticism, Self-help, Single

Each of us has an unwritten but deeply inscribed “book” inside that catalogs our insanities and imperfections… but when do you show your lover those chapters?  I’ve been enamored, of late, with The Course of Love, a book by Allain de Botton, and his other work exploring and exposing Romanticism. (He has books, videos, newsletters, and more, if the bug of debunking romanticism bites you too!) He says in one of his lectures that “We don’t need people to be…

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You’re Not Forever Alone

By | Dating, Emotions, Forever Alone, Love, Millennials, Relationships, Self-help, Single, Uncategorized

The thought crosses every person’s mind who is single at one time or another. Will I ever “find the one?” or will I be “forever alone.” The answer is all based on your attitude. Negativity is love repellent, instantly killing chemistry’s chances of making a match. Meeting people, interacting, and dating are all dependent on the attitude and aura we put out into the world. For instance, when we first meet someone in a local scene, a first impressions is…

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October Resolutions

By | Dating, Emotions, Fall, Love, Relationships

October is upon us, the end of the year is at our door step. Did you have New Years Resolutions? I know, the conversation should be all about jack-o-lanterns and falling leaves but did you follow them through? Was branching out, challenging yourself, and meeting someone one of your resolutions? If you didn’t follow through, or if you’ve gotten stuck, you don’t need to wait till January to reset your initiative. Let’s make October a month of achievement and personal…

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Stories of Triumph

By | Dating, Emotions, Love, Relationships, Self-help

Tyler A busy entrepreneur who had spent his 20’s building a thriving business. His team at work was his pseudo-family but he wanted something more. He wanted to meet a woman who was smart, kind, and had a passion for life. Oh, and not afraid of the outdoors! He reached out to us and after an extensive interview, we determined he was someone we could make a difference for so we began a 6 month matchmaking program with him.

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Shame. Overcome It.

By | Dating, Emotions, Love, Relationships, Self-help

Shame. It’s been a hot topic in the self-help universe since Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly came out. I’ve wanted to talk about it for a long time. But I wasn’t ready yet. I had my own shame to process: Shame over projects started but not finished (at least not very quickly). Shame about relationships that didn’t turn out the way I thought they would. Shame about all the countless times I dropped the ball or stuck my head in the sand…

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Can Women and Men Be Friends?

By | Dating, Love, Relationships

There is one debate that’s been tossed around in relationship conversations since the Rob Reiner movie, When Harry Met Sally and Friends with Benefits starring Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake: whether men and women can really be friends, like the platonic (well kind of platonic when referring to Friends with Benefits…I mean like being friends.)   Many relationship experts will insist that a lasting male/female friendship is impossible. But then I have friends who are matchmakers whose opposite-sex friends are…

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9 Red Flags (That You Know You Bleach White)

By | Dating, Love, Relationships

Guys do it. Girls do it. We put on the glasses that allow us to look at a red flag and see them as white. (Or maybe a pale and palatable shade of pink.) You might say they’re “Bleaching Lenses” because they have the power to distort the way you perceive someone’s behavior. You want to be the girlfriend (you’re trying so hard to be the girlfriend!) but thanks to those lenses that help you bleach red flags white (with thanks to Jenny…

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Tell Me About Yourself…

By | Dating, Love, Relationships, Uncategorized

It’s Spring, a time of renewal, and a time to get honest about what you really want. In just about every first date situation, you’ll be asked the question, “How would you describe yourself?” or instructed to “Tell me about yourself!” While this is something that should be expected and thought through, many novice daters and other singles overlook the importance of this opportunity and don’t take the time to prepare meaningful answers. The best advice I can give is to…

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